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Hello everyone, welcome back to ItalianPod101.com.
My name is Desy, mi chiamo Desy, mi chiamo Desy.
And in this video we're going to talk about formal Italian.
linguaggio formale
So when you study you're probably used to see the informal form on books.
So la forma informale, la lingua informale which is the one that uses to, so you, for example in dialogues.
But to be formal you have to use the third person, so lei.
What I mean is that as you know there are six subjects in Italian, six possible subjects.
So io, me, io, tu, you, lei or lui, so she or he, noi, we, you all, voi, and they, loro.
When you're talking to a friend of yours you just say tu, right?
Ciao, come stai? Tu.
Hi, how are you? Come stai?
But if you're talking to someone that you don't know or even someone that you know like your boss for example
and you want to be formal, then you have to use the third person.
lei, lei
Let's pay attention. I know this is tricky because lei means she, right?
But actually you use it with males as well.
Let's assume you're talking to your boss and let's assume he's a guy.
You have to say lei come sta?
Which means how are you, but in a formal way.
So how is she, literally.
But that she refers to him.
It's easier than it seems because actually you don't even have to think about the genre of the person you're talking to
because you can always use lei.
So come stai? How are you? becomes come sta?
Because the conjugation of the verb stare goes like io sto, tu stai, lei sta, right?
Cosa fai? What are you doing?
Cosa fa? What are you doing, but in a formal way.
That being said, you may think okay I'm never gonna use the formal language
but even if you're not using it yourself, be careful because people are still gonna use it with you
especially when you go to shops, for example.
So even if they say lei, still keep listening because they may be talking to you and not about someone else.
For example, if I'm inside a shop and you come in, buongiorno, buongiorno.
Cerca qualcosa in particolare? Are you looking for something in particular?
Cerca, third person singular, so lei cerca or lui cerca if it helps you.
But I'm still referring to you, I'm asking you.
Lei cerca qualcosa di particolare? Instead of cerchi qualcosa di particolare?
Another simple example could be tu sei molto gentile.
You are really kind, tu sei molto gentile.
Which becomes lei è molto gentile.
Technically there is no way to know if someone is referring to you or someone else
except from the context, okay?
But this is only for oral dialogues because actually in written language lei when it refers to a formal you
it's written with a capital letter, even if it's in the middle of the phrase.
Non solo la sua famiglia, ma anche lei è molto gentile.
Not only your family, but you as well are really kind.
Here I just wanted to show you that even in the middle of the phrase lei has a capital letter.
But from this phrase we can also notice something else.
So since you're referring to you as in third person,
you also have to change the adjectives and the pronouns.
Meaning, even if I'm talking about you, I'm not gonna use the adjective tuo.
So not even your family.
Non solo la tua famiglia.
Because in that case I would have to use tu, which is not formal.
So I'm using sua because that's the possessive adjective for her.
And the same goes for pronouns.
Ti regalo questo.
I'm giving this to you.
This is a gift for you.
Still talking to you, but in a formal way.
Of course, as I was saying before, it depends on the context.
So if you know that this person has been referring to you with lei, then le regalo questo is of course for you.
But if you're just talking to a friend and you're talking about, for example, his girlfriend,
then le regalo questo refers to his girlfriend, of course.
Another thing that I want to tell you is that when you use the formal language,
when you're using the imperative, that becomes conjunctive.
So if I would be saying,
Dammi la penna.
Give me the pen.
That becomes mi dia la penna.
Come.
Come with us to dinner.
Come have dinner with us.
From the conjunctive form, che lei venga.
And this is called forma di cortesia.
Courtesy form, basically.
Because I'm giving you an order, but trying to be kind, I'm just inviting you.
The formal form is one of the hardest things to use in Italian,
but I hope that thanks to this video at least you can understand it.
So if someone is talking to you with lei.
But allow me to give you a tip that may save you.
When someone is talking to you with the lei form and you may be confused,
you can just say,
Per favore, dammi del tu.
Which literally means,
Give me you.
Of course it doesn't mean anything bad,
it just means that the other person can refer to you with the tu form.
Please give me the you form.
You can just say,
Diamoci del tu.
Let's give each other the you form.
Diamoci del tu.
If someone else tells you,
Mi dia del tu.
For example,
Mi dia del tu.
It means that they are using the formal form with you,
but they want to be treated as you.
And that's also a life saver,
because then you can be,
Ok, then me too.
Anche me, anche me.
Dammi del tu.
Diamoci del tu.
So if you were patient enough to come to the end of this video,
now you know how to save yourself from the lei form.
La ringrazio.
I'm thanking you.
La ringrazio.
Pronoun for lei.
So la ringrazio.
I'm thanking you.
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